relationships are never easy... it's the intricate connections that connect you to others... be it kinship, frenship, or even a bgr... all of which are hard...
each diff kinds or relationships takes diff ways and effort to maintain...
we can't realli choose our kinship...for we are born into one... who your parents are are already predetermined the moment you are born into it...
and i guess tt's why it should be the most impt thing that matter out of all these relationships...
frenship on their other hand, are what we find along the passage of life...
from young, we make frens along the way...and with the passing of time, frens enter and leave our life... it all depends on how much u cherish the frenship that determines the effort you put into maintaining the frenship... sometimes indeed, it is a one sided thing... you can be alwaes the one tt contact others... and alwaes the one that organises this and that... but it just boils down to your own initiative...
however, i believe the ones that most ppl will be having troubles with are normally bgr... somehow, i see that alot in ppl i knew.... ppl are not troubled over kinship/ frenship..but it juz kills them when it gets to bgr... i guess bgr does rank above frenships...and juz slightly below kinship... afterall, when a couple get married...the bgr auto upgrades to a kinship...or kinda aniwae...
in the pursuit of this kinship... ppl changes... and i do believe that such changes are justified... a impatient person could become more patient with his/her other half... a uncaring person can starts to care more abt his/her other half... but mabbe... in the course of the changes... detrimental changes might do occur... possesive-ness, jealousy, and over reliance and taking for granted might all set in... this will leads to arguements...
ppl will change from a you-first to a me-first attitude... where everything is about ur own self... that's when i guess the typical comments like "you dun care abt me...you dun love me..." will appear... i guess...if it comes to such a case...high chance will be the r/s might fail... and everything's gonna be back to square one...
ah well... who am i to comment aniwae... to all who having r/s probs... good luck...
"if i dun see myself existing in this world, i can live solely for you..."
